I know that "half" of all marriages end up in divorce, though I would love to see the statistics broken down in terms of socio-economic groups. However, I don't think I ever really, really considered how this could happen. I mean, if you loved the person you married, then you loved them, right? How could you go from loving them for 10 years to hating them? I've always had this romantic, idealistic view of being in love, and obviously, if I were to get married, this would never happen to me, right?
And I can see people fighting about how to raise their children, about money, about how to spend their time, etc, but if you considered that and discussed all that before hand, then you were ok, right?
But, people change. And since I'm pretty far from getting married, this isn't a real situation I'm talking about, except that it has happened to me, only not with boys, but with friends. You change, and your friends change, and then sometimes you grow apart, and you just don't think or view of your friend the same way that you did before. And then what? You can't go back to the days when you had a different relationship, because both of you have changed. And you can't ignore that your relationship has changed, because the dynamic, though subtle is different. And even if you did ignore it, you would know deep, deep down, that things were different.
I guess what I'm saying is, I never expected this to happen with some of my friends. But it has, and it does, and you just don't know it will. So what if I fall in love with someone, and then 5 or 10, or even 25 years later, they change or I change, or we both change, and it's not in the same way, and we fall out of love with one another?
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